Thursday, January 27, 2005

Six Steps Towards Creating Lasting Change in Your Life

I just finished listening to Anthony Robbin's Power Talk audio, "The Six Master Steps to Change" where he interviews Mark H. McCormak, founder of billion dollar business IMG, on his success secrets, and also shared with his listener's how to create lasting change in thier lives.

Here is my summary of Tony's six steps:

1. Decide what you really want and what's preventing you from getting it right now to replace the negative habit you want to change in your life.

2. Get leverage. Link massive pain to not changing your habit and list what you're missing out on for not changing and link massive pleasure to changing by listing all the positive things you'd get from changing.

3. Interrupt your old patterns by doing something outrageous. For example an extreme chocoholic came to one of Tony's seminars. Tony made him commit to eating only chocolate and drinking water for nine days non-stop. Well, after 3 days, the guy was repulsed by chocolate.

4. Create an empowering alternative. In order to give up smoking, drinking, gambling, being messy and unorganized, feeling overwhelmed, or any negative habit, one has to replace it with some activity that will bring them joy and give them the same feelings of excitement to eliminate the boredom such as playing sports, dancing, writing, being in a relationship, etc.

5. Condition a new pattern. Anything you do over and over again with intensity and feeling develops into a new habit.

6. Test your feelings towards the new change you have created in your life. For example, if you continually feel rejected by the way your boss treats you, you could imagine yourself having that same conversation that made you feel uneasy before sense how you feel in that situation. If you are still feeling uneasy and fearful, you need to go back to one of the six steps and re-condition your mind.

[Taken from Anthony Robbin's Power Talk audio "The Six Master Steps to Change," 1994]

If you have any questions about these six steps feel free to email me at

Sharif Khan
Author, Psychology of the Hero Soul

Friday, January 21, 2005


Victory belongs to those who want it the most and stay in the longest. If you want to be successful in the game of life, you gotta play hard and you gotta play to WIN! Every world-class champion plays only to win.

Highly successful people take an ALL or NOTHING approach to the GAME. They will be on TOP of the mountain of success waiving the flag of VICTORY or lying dead at the bottom. But there's no room for in-between. No time for half-measures. It's all or nothing. To be victorious you must play to win.

Sharif Khan
Author, Psychology of the Hero Soul

Saturday, January 15, 2005

The Power of Purpose

Martin Luther King once said, "If a man hasn't discovered something that he will die for, he isn't fit to live." It may sound harsh, but it's true. Without a purpose we perish. Without a vision we're out of commission.

Ask yourself what is your purpose? Do you have a vision that will propel you to succeed? For example, my purpose is to write; to enrich the lives of as many people as I can using my God-given talents. My vision is to inspire the world and make a positive difference in people's lives. This purpose and vision is what inspires me to go on whether I'm having a good day or a bad day; it allows me to stretch beyond myself.

A great way to help find your purpose, if you are still searching, is to ask yourself three simple questions:

1. Who am I?
2. What do I want?
3. What brings me the greatest joy?

Ask yourself these three questions over the course of a week or two in front of the mirror, as you're about to go to sleep, and when you wake up. The answers will come.

Finally, the hero's journey is about following your bliss. Do what you love doing regardless of what other people think. Anyone can take an hour every day doing what they love doing whether it's writing, photography, dancing, running business ventures, acting, opera, crafts, painting, whatever. When you follow your bliss, you will be living on purpose.

Monday, January 10, 2005

Rebel With a Cause

"Heroes are rebels with a cause. Rebels because they challenge the traditional ways of thinking and refuse to follow the herd. They have a cause, a vision, that's larger than life."
- Sharif Khan, author, Psychology of the Hero Soul

Sunday, January 09, 2005

The Power of Questions

The type of questions you ask largely determine the type of results you get. If you ask small questions, "How do I start a business?" "How do I publish a book?", you get small answers: "Go to your local government office and register a business", "Go to your local kinko's to publish your book"

On the other hand ask BIG questions and you create BIG results: "How do we put a computer on every desk and in every home?" (Bill Gates), "How do we create a Mega Book-Publishing Empire?" (Mark Victor Hansen and Jack Canfield, co-creators of the Chicken Soup Series)

It takes just as much time to think small as it does to think BIG. Why not think BIG?

Saturday, January 08, 2005

Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde

Watched the 1920 silent-film version of "Dr. Jekyll and Mr. Hyde" starring John Barrymore who plays both. An excellent film adaptation of Robert Louis Stevenson's novella. (I also re-read Stevenson's "Treasure Island" recently).

Watching the film was a welcome respite from all the explosions, car-chases, and high-tech special effects that can leave one dazed and confused. The underlying theme of the movie is exploring the fine line between the divine and diabolical, saint and sinner, friend and foe that lie within and the continual conflict between the two. (I've written two chapters in my book, "Psychology of the Hero Soul" which explores both these hero-villain sides of human nature).

David Pierce's 1997 review of the film is bang-on: "Jekyll speculates on the advantage of separating the two natures of man in different bodies- one could "yield to every evil impulse, yet leave the soul untouched." Jekyll's scientific passion leads him to a formula that brings out his other side, Mr. Hyde, a man without a conscience."

It's a troubling film, because I feel 'scientific passions' without a moral compass or conscience can lead to some horrible monstrosities, as this film so visually depicts - in black and white.

Saturday, January 01, 2005

The Hero Soul Book Summary

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Psychology of the Hero Soul, by Sharif Khan, ISBN 0973192208 (Diamond Mind Publishing), 160 pages, $19.95 CDN/ $14.95 US, trade-paperback, Copyright © 2004, 2005

Book Summary
Psychology of the Hero Soul is an inspirational book on promoting heroes and responsibleleaders in the workplace and everyday life. It’s based on over ten years research in the field of human development and leadership. The purpose of the book is to awaken the hero within anddevelop people’s leadership potential. It is specifically designed to unlock people’s inner heropotential and inspire them to achieve success in a big way. To order, visit

Testimonials for The Hero Soul:

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- Bob Proctor, Chairman, Life Success Productions; author, You Were Born Rich

“An excellent book that will help you discover the hero within you.”
- Robin Sharma, author, The Monk Who Sold his Ferrari

“Our life is completed by modeling heroes. Here is your pick of some of the world's best heroes which will make your life richer, more meaninful and impactful.”
- Mark Victor Hansen, co-creator, #1 New York Times bestselling series: Chicken Soup for the Soul (R)